back-stab

忍一时风平浪静，退一步海阔天空

One of the simplest approach to a peaceful life is not to interfere with the life or practices of others. 

In other words, leave things/people alone when it's really none of your business.

And if you really can't help but have to voice it, don't use the back-stab approach.

Today's one of those days when I feel like I could win a wrestle with a bull.

I'm like a lioness on guard, ready to pounce.

But the better of me reminded myself to stay calm and composed, I'll be the bigger person today. 

So the admin wrote an email to my leader indicating:

Has she cleared her desk?

1. Her desk is like a garbage dump.

2. I cleared 4 dishes from her desk last weekend and put them in the dishwasher.

3. Office is a place for work and not for cornflakes.

4. blablabla...

The leader did not know how to respond to the admin and did not know how to pass the message on to me so he showed me the email instead.

He certainly underestimated the 'fire' in me. LOL. 

Sleeping volcanoes are the worst when they explode.

So I asked him:

Is there anything to do with her if my desk's messy? 

No wonder the glasses were missing on Monday. I did not ask her to clear that. Why was she removing things from my desk? Why is she complaining after doing things which no one told her to do in the first place?

And what's wrong with having food under the desk? The 'cornflakes' are less of a hazard than the drawers and backpack you guys have under your desk. 

Can't she tell me herself? What's with this email?

He replied: It's ok. It's ok. If that's what she wants......

Very quickly, I threw all the papers (wanted or unwanted) into the paper bin. Food into the drawers, stationery into a paper bag. What's left on the desk now is a keyboard, mouse, glass of plain water, calculator, and a desk phone. Let's see whose desk is more like a dump now. Wtf.

To respond to the 3 points above:

First of all, please be more ethical and not bitch behind people's back especially in a 'professional' working environment.

1. Please have some 'respect' for others and use appropriate words in professional environment. A MESSY desk is not a garbage dump. Does it stink? If it did, does it matter to you given that you're 10 metres or so away. Mine your own business. Do only what's on your job scope. I'm sure it doesn't include 'making sure other people's desk does not look like a dump'.

2. Did you ask permission to remove my 'dishes'? I haven't even raised questions as to why the two glasses of plain water miraculously disappeared over the weekends. PLAIN WATER. Not any food or 'dishes' as you claimed they were. ETHICS 101: Don't touch things which don't belong to you and not on your desk.

3. Office is a place NOT JUST for work. And to correct you, I haven't had cornflakes in decades. See clearly before you start accusing blindly. If I may say, office is also not a place for you to blend your whatever diet juice in the kitchen. Blenders are for home.

And after cleaning, the leader said thanks for cleaning up.

I looked at him from the sides of my eyes and told him: Ya...she better not come near me now, I'll bite.

He then told me, 忍一时风平浪静，退一步海阔天空. Haih, maybe I shouldn't have shown you the email.

Me: If I didn't 忍, I would have confronted her for what she did. Thanks for showing me that email, otherwise I wouldn't know why she was acting funny when I saw her in the kitchen yesterday.

I'll be a forgiver today.

Thanks for the opportunity to train my patience.